CULTURE SHOCK in Japan なかなか慣れない日本のこと

CULTURE SHOCK in Japan なかなか慣れない日本のこと

Hey guys! Today Rachel has joined me We’re gonna talk about: Japanese things that we still cannot do properly So, things in Japan that are a little different than back home, that we’re still not used to The first one that comes to my mind is squat toilets Not a fan How about you? Um, I actually love squat toilets WHAT!? What do you like about them!? I’m like the weirdest person probably I’ve never met another foreigner who likes them I’ve never met anyone, no! WHY? Because they’re so convenient and quick It’s like a urinal for women You don’t have to touch anything So it feels cleaner I don’t have to clean off the toilet, or put down toilet paper That’s true it’s quicker because you don’t have to prepare everything It just feels so awkward for me It’s better for you, because it’s more natural Yeah like the position of your body. I read that somewhere. I just can’t do it properly I don’t see how people use it without taking all their clothes off Like how do you not pee all over yourself I can not do it… It just doesn’t work I’m gonna make the worst video tutorial in the world You’re gonna make a tutorial!? Like in a bathing suit, just pull down my shorts This is how you position yourself Ok, yeah so squat toilets are one of the things I cannot get used to In most cases they will have… you can choose! Lots of malls will have the Japanese style toilets and the western style toilets So you can just wait in line until one of the western ones is free if you prefer those But sometimes when you get out into the middle of nowhere, in the countryside they will only have the Japanese style toilets So it’s something I really wish I could get used to But… I’ve lived in Japan how many years now? Like 8? and I still despise them and I get all nervous when there’s only Japanese ones I’m like “What am I going to do… maybe I can hold it for a couple more hours” Well I think you should at least try them because you might actually like them I was terrified at first, and it took me 2-3 times to get used to it TWO!? I’ve used them like 15 at least I choose the squat toilet every time now That’s crazy… One day… you make that tutorial and I will follow it and maybe do it properly The most embarrassing tutorial in the world Ok so what’s something Japanese that you’re not used to yet? One of them would be taking off my shoes quickly when I enter a house Same for me It’s okay when I’m going in my own home because no one is waiting on me But if I’m with someone else, I have to go last because I don’t want to inconvenience them Because it takes me so long to unlace my shoes, or unzip it and like reach my hand down and pull it off Yeah it’s hard to do it on one leg, you have to like balance Falling into stuff Just not used to it I can’t just pull my foot outta my shoes, I have to use my hands The worst is when you’re at a restaurant and you have people you don’t know waiting for you to put your shoes on and it’s just so intimidating I’m trying to be fast~ Restaurants, doctors offices, or dentists where you have to take off shoes It’s embarrassing Slip on shoes, I have found the wonders of slip on shoes recently So much easier Second one is… I can’t even say this in English because we don’t have this type of food but in Japanese it’s called “neba neba” “neba neba shiteru tabemono” So I’m gonna try my best to translate this into English Really, it’s not gooey, it’s a certain texture… If you know natto, and you know the texture of natto It’s that texture. Slimy, I guess? Slimy and gooey. Slimy gooey and sticky, all of the above. I can think of 3 foods off the top of my head, in Japan that are like that Natto, Yamaimo (mountain potato), or okra Which is a green vegetable And it looks like a star when you cut it Yeah it just looks like a regular star shaped cucumber But when you cut it, it’s got the gooey stuff on the inside And I just cannot get used to eating that texture Even if the flavours don’t bother me that much the texture is just not something that I’m used to I’ve tried it several times, apparently it’s really good for you That stickiness I think it’s good for your body somehow, your skin or I dunno But everyone says that those 3 things are really healthy and you should always try to eat them and they’re included in lots of different Japanese meals But I just can’t get used to it… And it’s too bad because I love eating healthy foods It would be great to enjoy them just like Japanese people do But, can’t How about you? Are you the same? No, no I absolutely cannot handle it I’m very sensitive to texture in the first place So even just looking at it now will make me gag Oh no, that’s bad So if I get it into my mouth, I’m guaranteed to like… it’s bad I’ve tried so many times, I just can’t do it Another thing I can’t do is pretty much anything related to riding bikes Ohhh Now I can manage to ride a bicycle normally But Japanese people like grow up on bikes They’re like born on bikes I feel like they ride bikes more often than they walk It’s so common here Jun can ride a bike without using either handle bar Whoa~ No touching, and he can turn the bike too! How do you do that??? Japanese skills…. whaaat I can barely ride a bike without falling over Omg… I remember the first time that I tried to ride a bike The first time I came to Japan My homestay gave me a bicycle to ride to school every morning I was like.. Oh okay.. I haven’t ridden a bike in years But I tried it, and I kind of like veered off of the little path and into the rice paddy… It was so embarrassing They were probably like, what the hell, she’s like 17 and she can’t ride a bike? That was probably really weird for them to see It’s really embarrassing I’m totally used to it now and I bike all the time But that first time was like… yeah, I totally get where e you’re coming from Okay, another big one for me Another thing I wish I could get used to because everyone seems to really enjoy and love it here Onsen. I don’t like being naked in front of people I don’t know and would probably feel the same in front of people that I do know Like I don’t think I would want to go to an onsen with Rachel and be naked with each other That would probably be really awkward It’s really too bad, because Japanese people love onsens! They always talk about how amazing it is They’re like “Oh you should go to this onsen! It’s really beautiful!” And the first thing that comes to my mind is, I don’t care how beautiful the place is I just keep thinking about how I have to be naked in front of everyone and I don’t like that I’ve actually gotten used to the idea of being naked in front of other people I’ve been to hotels here where they have communal baths So when you want to take a shower, it’s in a room with lots of other showers So everyone is naked in the same room And I was like, What the heck!? the first time But then I was like, well ok, it’s normal here All right, whatever I’ll just do it As I’ve gotten older, I care a little bit less about those kinds of things But, I still can’t handle onsen because I’m too sensitive to temperature Ohhh they’re so hot! Really hot Even hot tubs in America, I can’t sit in hot tubs for more than 5 minutes Well I don’t think you’re supposed to anyways I don’t think its good for your body to be in them too long Maybe that’s a natural response But I’m the same People will just be like, sitting there enjoying it And I’m like jesus christ I gotta get out of here! Dying, like a lobster, and sweating… I really really wish I could enjoy onsen Because they seem magical, everyone else seems to absolutely adore them Ok, here’s something that I bet you feel the same way Keigo in Japanese. It’s not that I’m not used to it because it’s difficult… It is super difficult, so that’s one thing to get over But I’m kinda used to how keigo works Like when to use it, I know the main phrases But I’m not used to the feeling Because in Canada when you get close to someone you start to speak more casually with them But in Japan, if they’re like a higher rank than you If they’re older than you, or they’re your boss it’s really inappropriate to speak casually with them even if you feel like you have a close relationship So I always feel so conflicted I know that in Japanese I should keigo But I feel like, we’re close now! So I feel rude using this super polite language with them Because in Canada, if I use really polite language with someone it would be like, we don’t have a close relationship It’s like putting distance in between you it feels like Yeah, so I can’t get used to that It feels more friendly to us to speak casually That means that we like you, that we wanna be friends We wanna get to know you In some cases, it’s hard to not take it personally If someone won’t use informal I know! I hate that! Because with Jun’s family, I’m not allowed to use informal To like his parents, or his grandparents, or his aunt and uncle EVER. No matter what, even though I’m married into his family I’m never going to be allowed to speak informal I hate that, you feel distant from them It’s hard not to feel like they’re saying “You’re not really a part of our family” Because with my family, my family is like “Aw Jun, call me Mom!” When Jun comes over everyone is like giving him hugs and being like “Make yourself at home!” It’s really casual, and that’s how we greet people That how you show that you’re part of the family So that can be kind of difficult But Jun uses keigo with his parents too right? So you’re not the only one, like he will also use it I always thought that was really weird! Seeing Japanese people using really polite language with their parents That’s just so strange No, he does that too It goes beyond that too actually And I’m still not used to this either Even people who are married sometimes can use keigo with each other Jun said that this is completely normal Because I saw that happening and I was like “Jun! Jun! Isn’t this weird?” And he was like “No, actually it’s completely normal if people wanna use keigo” Sometime you see older couples, an obaachan, and they use formal with each other That makes it seem that they love each other so much that they’re still trying to win each other over Ohhh I see. So they’re still in that awkward stage where they still have to be super formal with each other So he says that when he sees older people using keigo with each other He feels like they’re being really cute Whoaaaa That’s such a culture shock That’s like opposite for us It’s hard for me to process I feel like thats one thing that I’m never gonna really get over because it’s just so different than Canada Just completely backwards to Canada I hope so… because it’s really frustrating sometimes You wanna be really close with your coworkers and feel like you’re friends but you have to use keigo with them because they have a higher position than you and it’s rude not to and I don’t like that>

Author: Kennedi Daugherty

100 thoughts on “CULTURE SHOCK in Japan なかなか慣れない日本のこと

  1. yes i am just now seeing this is in 2019 :') i'm just watching all of these cuz i wanna move to japan later on.

  2. I like these shows but, I gotta say, that after a while, you guys acting super happy all the time gets kind of annoying

  3. I’m Japanese but I’ve never seen “drivers” who don’t wear seat belts for 30 years but we usually don’t wear seat belts in the back seat.

  4. I’m Japanese but I’ve never seen “drivers” who don’t wear seat belts for 30 years but we usually don’t wear seat belts in the back seat.

  5. When I was in Japan, not only did I speak casually to everyone, but I spoke like a man. LOL I even was in audience with the Lord of Osaka, and I looked him in the eyes. He told me he liked me more because of it, as no man in Japan would look him in the eyes, and it made him feel more comfortable because I was treating him as an equal. But this is how I treat celebrities too. I NEVER get Starstruck, and always treat them like I would treat anyone else.

  6. woah… first time i stumbled over your chanel and have to say… jun i love the color of your hair…

  7. When I was a member of the Guardian Angels Safety Patrol,. I was asked to go to Tokyo, Japan for the International Conference, in 1999, along with the rest of the New York City Chapter. I remembers leaving Rochester, on Lake Ontario ( across from Canada) and arriving hours late to New York City, the day before we were all taking a flight from JFK and landing in Narita. I remember being told, by some NYC members, that there was a chance that I might not be able to go to Japan because I missed "the important meeting." The leaders all laughed when they heard members tell me this. They explained to me that this meeting was to go over proper etiquette in Japan, and how members were supposed to behave, etc.

    They explained that because I was an American who had a strict German upbringing, I was a natural. The manners and behaviors which were ingrained in me since childhood prepared me for Japan. I learned :1. a polished, neat appearance is everything. 2. Punctuality is valued, as well as keeping one's commitments 3. Always use proper titles and last names with others, unless a person insists that you call them by another name ( it is still difficult) 4. Refer to others as sir or madam. 3. Show proper respect and don't act casual with strangers, with those who are in authority over you, or with those who are older than you. 5. Never visit anywhere as a guest without bringing a gift or gifts for your hosts/ hostesses. 6. Always send a thank you letter for a gift, after attending a party, dinner, or event as a guest, or after staying somewhere as a guest. We were even taught how to write " bread and butter " notes. I instinctively brought personal gifts to the Japanese Chapters/ leaders of beautiful, illustrated calendars with photographs of highlights of Rochester, New York. There were photographs of Highland Park with lilacs ( many lilac varieties were gifts from Japan) in full bloom and the Annual Lilac Festival, photographs of the Eastman School of Music( ranked from #2 to #5 best music school in the U.S. and the world.-25% are intentional students) Eastman Theater, and Eastman Philharmonic, The Eastman House, Strong Museum of Play, etc. I also handed out personal business cards- which is huge in Japan. I was observing the same exact etiquette that the Japanese observe. The Japanese actually put me in charge of making sure all of the Americans were ready and punctual, because the Japanese ,and those members from Europe, weren't going to wait for anyone.

  8. Growing up in Arizona I was 14 when I saw my 1st Okra and it was at the school cafeteria salad bar in Oklahoma

  9. Wow, you guys are too young to remember how formal Canada used to be. I feel insulted if called by my first name in the doctors office. I grew up that unless you know,the,person,you never address them in the familiar. It seems to,have changed.

  10. I was going to say slipon shoes are the best ever!
    I suffer from a disease called Fibromyalgia and slip on shoes have been a godsend!
    That save me pain because I can just pop in and out of them with ease never bending over (fibro tenses the muscles while also making the muscles hurt terribly so bending over is harder and painful)

  11. Wow… Interesting enough for me. I am loosing my feeling when I moved to the States. In other words, I got used to the mixture of western style & eastern style…

  12. Nebaneba I guess it's spelled is fermentation, all fermented foods are great for your digestive tract backteria. I have a german background even though I'm american, periodically I will drink pickle juice only from a certain brand here, and I also periodically eat sauerkraut

  13. When i came to America, the slang was hard to understand. From England. I have a better understanding now.

  14. 和式便器は毎日使えば平気なんだろうけど、久々に使うと、しゃがんだあと立ち上がれない。だから棒がないといけないのに棒が無い。つまり和式は棒とセットだよね。

  15. About the bike riding thing, it's probably fine. I have a friend who is gonna be a junior in hs and to my knowledge, unless he tried it in the last few months, has never ridden a bike

  16. Squat toilets frighten me. I have chronic illness, old injuries and more recent degeneration. I can squat just fine, but I cannot get up on my own!

  17. In Guatemala, when u meet someone new, you are respectful of them and address them as such, as well as your parents. But this varies from person to person, most of the custom is in this fashion, if you address someone more "familiarly" it's ok, but some ppl get offended as others believe that it's no big deal.

  18. The riding of bicycle thing is more of a personal shortcoming than something having to do with not being Japanese

  19. I learned how to ride a bike young and can do the no handed turning on a good bike. In the Us. I guess its an area thing

  20. You guys didn’t have okra before you went overseas?? Okra is very big in southern United States, especially fried. Almost as common as yellow squash.

  21. I want to like natto (spelling?) and okra but I can't get past the slime! Almost everyone else in my family acts like okra is a delicacy but I'm over here like: 🤢

  22. 夫婦で敬語を使うのは普通とは言えません。

  23. Riding bikes is second nature for the dutch to , i used to ride my bike without using the handlebars too

  24. Okra is not just in japan. I've lived in Texas my whole life (28 years) and we have definitely always grown and eaten okra. It's nothing like a cucumber, except in being green, and it shouldn't be slimy, so maybe cook it differently.

  25. Hey, I loved squat toilets, for the same reasons, when I lived in Tokyo for 2 years! My workplace had two stalls, one western and one a "squat" toilet, and I always chose the latter. It's a much healthier position for a woman's body. I still miss them, years after returning to the states.
    I also loved the onsen. And it helps women to have a healthier sef-image, when you become used to seeing all the different sizes and shapes ordinary women come in.

  26. I used to that when I was 16. All in balance n practice. Turn w no hands. Steer w no hands. Easy once u get hang of it. But embarrassing n sometimes painful lol

  27. The reason Japanese people use 敬語keigo for older people and even between married couples is 礼 manners from ancient Chinese Confucianism. They have a quote "君君臣臣父父子子", which puts parents in a superior position to their children.

  28. That's so interesting about keigo and married couples. Reminds me of my high school French teacher being surprised that we were surprised that married couples would use the formal you form with each other.

  29. 日本人ですが、実は敬語好きではありません。上下関係を作る必要がない時がほとんどで、黄色人種はマウンティングしたい本能があるのかもしれません。

  30. Canadians take their shoes off in a house. I've never really thought about whether we do it 'fast' or not and I'm not gonna follow some random Japanese around to find out.

  31. Ah I'd love to learn to ride a bike someday, I regret not taking my dads offer to teach me when i was young but riding a bike seemed too scary haha.
    An 18 year old learning how to ride a bike… This is so embarrassing. I'm trying to think of private areas where people can't watch and laugh at me.

  32. 私はアメリカや他の国に行ったことはないけど、現地の人がくだけた感じで話しかけてくれたら嬉しいと思います!でも自分の方が立場が上だったら少し嫌かも知れません。けど、そこの人達がみんなそんな感じで話しているなら違和感ないと思います!

  33. I live in America and I can easily ride my bike without using my hands but I also ride my bike a lot so I guess I have a lot of experience

  34. If they make fun of you with food, find a root-beer and chug it down. They'll be scared of you! Japanese can't drink this taste XD

  35. Fried Okra is the best. When you come back to visit home, go down south. Okra is a southern standard vegetable. You never had one in America.

  36. I have the opposite shoe problem. 🤣 I can toe any shoe off real quick, but putting them back on is an ordeal. To speed up the process (and stop falling over because what is balance), I bought a shoe horn and I keep it next to my door. 😂

  37. 敬 of 敬語 has several meanings with different situation, like respect, worship, adore, of showing loyalty.
    As a Japanese, I feel that our highest level of affection doesn't always mean to be extremely friendly, in case of that old couple you saw seems to be adoring each other using Keigos.
    It's a difference between western and Japanese sense of what is the highest level of relation, loving or respecting.

  38. Oh god no, they have okra in my country too and they consider it a delicacy… this is my country remember and I always almost barf everytime I am forced to eat that slimy thing! Thank you for saying okra and letting me know what you were talking about… if I ever go to Japan, thanks, but no thanks!

  39. I mean isn't it rude for someone to demand that you use polite language with them because they're older? That alone would make me lose any respect for them and be enough to make sure that I never use polite language with them.

  40. I was lucky enough to live there for three years preceding the Fukushima disaster and I LOVED “squatty potties” for all the same reasons!

  41. Growing up in South Texas, Stewed Tomatoes and Okra was a regular thing on the trays at school during both Junior High and Elementary Schools. Not that we all ate it, lol. And it’s essential to a good Seafood Gumbo.

  42. One of the first things you learn on a bike is how to ride it using no hands, and how to turn. Surprised you two never figured that out. Also with regards to the formality/informality the Japanese use in their language, its a man part of their culture and one of the first things any foreign student of Japanese culture learns is that there is a class structure still observed by many in Japan but particularly in business and amongst the older generations.

  43. アメリカに行ったときに皆にフレンドリーに接してもらって嬉しかったよ。


    your my family!iloveyou!カモーン!みたいに( ´∀`)

  44. I almost gave myself a nasty bath and a concussion using the squat toilet >_> Losing your balance with your pants around your ankles could be deadly.

  45. I'm not even Japanese and I don't feel like much of this cultural things would be much of a barrier, except maybe inflexible customer service and staff. Maybe I'm just weird XD

  46. On the point about language, closeness and formality, my personal life has thrown up an opposite problem as a British person married to a Chinese person. In British culture, we use a relatively more polite form of English when addressing our family to show respect, such as using much less slang, and far more pleases/thank yous, whereas in Chinese culture, you use a relatively less polite way of speaking when addressing one's family to show closeness and affection (it is a bit more complex than that, but it would take too long to explain in detail). I therefore feel extremely uncomfortable with my Chinese in-laws, where showing any sort of basic politeness and gratitude in their home for their kindness causes them to feel uncomfortable. My wife has similar challenges the other way.

  47. Funny how many people think okra is Japanese. I used to think so too when I was a kid, not just because オクラ sounds Japanese, but because my parents were clearly surprised it was available in the States.

  48. I’m Japanese and I’ve been to Canada. I had many friends senior than me and I talked with them in casual way, cuz we were talking in English and it sounds natural.
    And I love that way of talking.

    But if we had met in Japan and spoken in Japanese, I would’ve been uncomfortable…because in Japanese, we often use Keigo to show respect to others as one person -not distance. We find casualties in our tones and facial expressions.
    I feel comfort in that way if I speak in Japanese.

    Anyways, I love both styles!:)

  49. Lived in Thailand for 15 years and LOVE squat toilets. Like Rachel said, you don't have to touch anything. Plus they don't give you hemorrhoids 🙂 And Rachel is always hilarious!!

  50. Is it realy normal to talk in keigo with friends only because they got a ,,higher rank“?! O.o couldn't do that :'D

  51. Riding a bike is not "Japanese" and everyone outside of North-America grows up riding a bike, beeing able to swim before Kindergarten age, using communal changing rooms or in Germany and nordic states even visiting mixed sex saunas in the nude. japanese are the normal people on that topics…it's American crazyness here.

  52. Great vids Sharla! I love onsen!! moving back to mainland after 9 years in Okinawa next week. One of the big reasons is I miss onsen.

  53. Oh I'd love to go to an onsen if I ever went to Japan but I have a tattoo so apparently I'm part of the yakuza now aha

  54. The cuteness of formality in old age just blew my mind in this video. When I was at Taco Bell a few months ago, I saw and 90+ year old couple on a date and I thought to myself "goals". I never want to be filtered with my spouse – made sure of that when I married.

  55. When you use a squat toilet doesn’t your pee splash on your shoes? I would also say it must be hard to use if your old, disabled, or have diarrhea… you must have to pull your undies/tights all the way to your ankles

  56. Please tell me there's a noticeably good amount of japanese that do not adhere through and through to keigo and such inferiority-superiority-complex-dynamic

  57. Use of Keigo is out of respect. Perhaps Americans would not be putting their elders away in nursing homes if there were a built in culture of respect as it is through the language in Japan and other Asian cultures.

  58. I am japanese learning English, I do not feel it is weird that western ppl speak english very casually like in informal way coz that is what the culture where english is spoken is sopposed to look like.
    but, when I speak japanese, I usually change my character to adjust to japanese culture and in my opinion, ppl are expected to be polite or have to be polite when speaking japanese. For example, in my case, when I go to the UK and meet someone who can speak japanese, I use "keigo" even if the person is yonger than me. in such situation like when I want to be closer to that person, I personally prefer talking to the person in English. but, once you get closer like the best friend who we have known each other for years, I defenitely prefer using japanese.

  59. 敬語:外国の方は、無理に敬語を使わなくて良いでしょう。丁寧語(敬語の1種)が正式な場合の標準語です。感謝が日本社会の基盤です。”頂きます、お疲れ様、さようなら等の挨拶は”、有り難うのTPOの表現です。私の場合、感謝する対象の第一は、アイザック・ニュートンです。
    運動の法則(力 (ベクトル量)=質量(スカラー量)x加速度(ベクトル量))と、 操作法の微分・積分

  60. i just saw this vlog after 4 years,,, but i have to say,, there is that speaking polite, proper between family members outside japan,, even in the us. like in those very wealthy families in the high society, they speak very proper as if like they are british royals. when they talk to their parents, they go like, father, may i …… so i guess it's like that in japan everywhere, except they are not even those wealthy high society people, and those wealthy high society japanese people are exactly like the ones in the us too.

  61. I grew up using squat toilet and they actually were not bad but they weren’t as developed as the ones in Japan 😂😂

  62. I’m Japanese and currently in the US as a student but I still get awkwardness when people speak casual English to me because American people don’t care how old people are as much as Japanese. I decide how politely I speak based on how old they are so without knowing their age, I can’t use casual English because I’m afraid of being rude😅😅😅 I use casual English after I get to know their age

  63. I guess denmark is like japan when it comes to bicycles like learned it when i was like 3-4 and rode one to school and all since the school bus never came out to my place xD

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